Four Steps To Overcoming Bullying
THE FOUR STEPS TO OVERCOMING BULLYING
There is a present day epidemic plaguing the lives of the youth of this world. Bullying causes children to experience depression and anxiety, increased feelings of sadness and loneliness, changes in sleep and eating patterns, loss of interest in activities they use to enjoy, and overall it ruins the time of there life which they should experience the greatest amount joy and freedom. I have created this list steps that will help you or anyone else you know in the fight to overcome this terrible problem.
STEP 1: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF
create your armor by living up to your own standards and being the best version of yourself that you can be. Bullies like animals respond to fear. by establishing confidence in your self the bully will be unable to make you believe that you are something that you are not. Never allow anyone to make you feel bad for being who you are. Being like everyone else is boring. The people who standout the most are those who follow there own path. That's how new trends are started. Create a list of principles to live by such as treating others the way you want to be treated, never putting yourself down, and never quitting once you establish a goal just to name a few. It is also important that you keep a clear list of goals you want to accomplish. Some can be to have good grades, eat healthy, exercise regularly, read books, maintain good relationships with your friends and family, and finally to accept nothing short of greatness and happiness for yourself.
STEP 2: CREATE POSITIVE ASSOCIATIONS
Surround yourself with like minded and kind people. A group of kind individuals standing together will make any bully think twice. And in my experience most big guys like myself are what are called gentle giants. I made it a point to make sure that I was friends with every big guy in the school. Just a suggestion:). there is a famous saying that says show me your friends and i will show you your future. There were some people that I would allow into my life that would make fun of me and would treat me disrespectfully. At the time I was just happy to have people that wanted to be around me but that was the wrong way to think. I have always been a very nice and respectful person and I am here to tell you that just because you don't have the newest clothes & games, or are not up on the newest trends, or if like me your family doesn't have a lot of money that doesn't mean that you are not a great person who is underserving of respect and kindness. This period of your lives is filled with a lot of confusion and you are still trying to figure out what kind of people you want to be and what you want to do with your lives but there is something that will never change in life. Positivity begets positivity. If you are kind and respectful and your heart is receptive to the love this world has to offer then you will attract the right people and the right opportunities into your life.
STEP 3: DON'T KEEP IT TO YOURSELF
When I grew up I was always told the importance of not snitching. But I was also told that this was for people who you respect. Like your family or your friends. Now when it comes to any person who obviously has no respect for you and doesn't care about your well being they do not deserve that respect and you should not feel bad about telling someone what has happened. I'm sure that if you don't want to let them know that it was you that said something the teachers, faculty members, family, or friends would be happy to not mention you. It's very important that you are able to go through your days without the thought of being harassed. These are some of the most important years of your lives. You should be able to go through your days having fun and handling your business. If you are worried about bully's you won't be able to concentrate on your work, have fun, and enjoy the experience of being young and free. Please, if you are unable to handle the situation on your own let someone know. You don't deserve to go through your days in fear and insecurity.
STEP 4: SHOW RESPECT TO OTHERS AS WELL AS YOURSELF
negativity begets negativity. Reacting to a bully with violence will only create more violence. Find a constructive way to eliminate the situation. Treat everyone you meet with respect. If you begin to act like a bully yourself then the bully would have won. Do your part to put an end to bullying by using your words and actions to uplift and make people feel better about themselves. Also keep in mind that the person who is bullying you may be getting that same type of bullying somewhere else and chose a different path. By you responding to the bullying in a calm and positive way you may be able to not only end the bullying for you but you may even gain a friend in the process. Nothing is more important then kindness and respect. And that respect can't just go for others it must be for yourself as well.
Each and every one of us are human beings and no amount of money, possessions, or popularity is going to change that. We must begin to cultivate the mindset that we are all in this together. You cannot just think it, you must know deep in your mind and heart that you are deserving of kindness and respect. And if you don't believe that then you must figure out why? If you are treating other the way that you want to be treated then it should not be an issue. Make this world a better place by doing what the great Gandhi once said "be the change you wish to see in this world".
It is my great hope that these steps are able to help end the power bully has had over the undeserving children and sometimes adults of this world. If there are any comments or you things you feel can be added please let me know.